If you’re new to the world of crystals, you might already feel a little overwhelmed. It’s meant to be exciting—choosing your first pieces, discovering what draws you in—but instead, you’re bombarded with rules, warnings, and conflicting advice.
- Start with this crystal, but avoid that one—you’re not ready yet.
- You can’t wear these together—the energy will clash.
- Only use this crystal for that purpose—never for anything else.
- You must cleanse them this way, on this day, under this moon phase.
It’s enough to make anyone second-guess themselves. But here’s the truth: there are no rules.
Crystals Don’t Have Rulebooks—People Do
Crystals have existed for millions of years, long before humans gave them meanings and “guidelines.” They didn’t come with instruction manuals, and they don’t demand that you follow a set of rules to use them “correctly.”
The only thing that truly matters is your connection to them.
Choose What Draws You In
You don’t need permission to pick a crystal. If you’re drawn to something, that’s reason enough to own it. Maybe it’s the colour, the texture, or simply a gut feeling—whatever it is, trust it.
Each morning, I reach into my bowl of tumbled stones, close my eyes, and let my hand choose intuitively. I don’t question whether they “go together” or if they serve a specific purpose. I believe the universe has my back, and I trust in my own inner power. If my day goes well, I don’t credit the crystals. If it doesn’t, I don’t blame them. I trust the process, adjust what I can, and let go of what I can’t.
That’s what I want for you—to enjoy your crystals without fear of “getting it wrong.”
Crystals Aren’t Magic Fixes
I see it all the time—new collectors asking which crystal will help with headaches, high blood pressure, fertility, anxiety, or success. And I see sellers confidently claiming, “This one! This is the crystal that will fix it.”
But here’s the problem: crystals don’t work like that.
I will never tell you that a crystal will cure your depression, regulate your blood pressure, or bring love into your life. Can crystals offer comfort? Absolutely. Can they serve as reminders of your intentions? Of course. But the power is within you, not in the stone itself.
If you feel better when you hold a particular crystal, that’s wonderful. But it’s you who’s making the shift, not the rock.
Forget the “Right” and “Wrong” Ways to Use Crystals
Some people will tell you to wear certain crystals on your left wrist and others on your right. Some will warn against mixing certain stones. Others will say you must cleanse them in a specific way, or under the full moon, or with incense.
But ask yourself—who made these rules?
Think of crystals like music. No one tells you what songs you’re “allowed” to enjoy or that you’re not “ready” for a certain genre. You just listen, feel, and connect in your own way.
Crystals are no different.
If you want to charge them under the full moon, go for it. If you don’t, that’s fine too. If you like wearing tiger’s eye with selenite, do it. If you want to carry an entire pocket full of mixed stones, why not? The experience is yours—make it personal.
Welcome to Your Crystal Journey—Your Way
If you’re looking for strict guidelines and a list of “dos and don’ts,” I’m not that kind of crystal seller. I won’t box you into a set of rules. I won’t tell you that you must believe in metaphysical properties to enjoy crystals.
What I will do is encourage you to explore freely. To choose what speaks to you. To create a relationship with your crystals that feels natural—without pressure, without fear, and without anyone telling you that you’re doing it “wrong.”
You are your own guide. Trust yourself.
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
Are you new to crystals, or have you felt pressured by all the “rules” out there? Leave a comment below and let’s chat!